An important rule of a successful person is to be confident. Such a person can be seen immediately and is distinguished by their gait, speech, even gestures. However, it is not easy for everyone to come across as confident. For some people it is a very difficult task. But it can be managed by following a few important tips.
What do you need to avoid?
To become successful and confident, you must try to avoid the following:
Comparison with others. You must never try to compare yourself with others. You cannot be the best at everything. It’s better to look at it this way: are you the best version of yourself? If not, you should start there instead of trying to compare yourself to others.
Remember the failures. Everyone has had moments in life that are uncomfortable to remember. However, they often replay in your head and keep you on your toes. And, as a rule, these memories begin before you go to bed. In general, you should avoid flashbacks and this will give you confidence.
unpreparedness. You should always expect victories and successes and be prepared for them. Otherwise, one may miss out on good fortune. To avoid this, you must be prepared now and set yourself up for success.
Fear of judgment. This feeling is constraining and prevents you from feeling confident. Especially it concerns the fear of others’ opinions. But it’s worth understanding that one lives for oneself, not for acquaintances or colleagues at work. Therefore, someone else’s judgment should not play any role in your decisions.
Negative thinking. It is worth avoiding all thoughts that can inspire hopelessness and insecurity. It’s important to learn how to think positively. Positive thinking is one of the keys to success.
What do you need to change about yourself?
Here, too, there are several points on which it is worth paying attention. So, it is necessary to change the following in yourself:
posture. Do not slouch, and do not slouch. Good posture can change the image of the person in a few seconds. Keep an upright posture and look to yourself.
Emotions. Smile more often. Even when faced with setbacks, positive emotions can help you cope with problems. Remember that there are no unsolvable problems at home and at work. So there is no point in walking around with a frown.
Speech. Try to speak slowly. The fact is that in excitement one starts to speak quickly, and one’s voice goes up. As a result, the interlocutor will feel that you are concerned about something. To avoid this, you need to slow down the pace of the conversation and calm down. Only then will you be perceived as a calm and confident speaker.
Gaze. Look with confidence and boldness. Of course, this tip is irrelevant for those who work remotely. However, it will do when communicating outside of work. In dialogue, you should look into the person’s eyes and not look away. This lets them know you’re not nervous and you feel confident.
Get rid of labels. Humble people have grown accustomed to giving a certain impression of themselves over the years. But you can change that. It is enough to start choosing “yes” more often, to do something new. When you meet new people, you should introduce yourself right away and be confident. This will help create an appropriate impression of yourself.
Where to start
Psychologists advise to do one unusual exercise. To do this, you need to go out into the street and walk with your head held high and a smile on your face. At this time you should meet with the eyes of at least five strangers and say hello to them. Of course, it will be awkward at first, but you won’t see these passers-by again. But this exercise will help you become more confident and successful.